If God really loves me, why do I have to suffer?
How can the good and gracious God be in control of all things and
allow his people to suffer?
As we consider the conditions in our lives that tend to rob us
of our joy in Christ, perhaps there is no more perplexing problem
than that of human suffering. At least it is a problem while
we undergo suffering, but afterwards there is an incredible sweetness
and understanding. LetÌs approach this difficult dilemma from
a Biblical perspective:
1. God is sovereign over the realm of all human activity, including
suffering. Sometimes people get the idea that suffering
is Ïjust one of those things,Ó that happens and that God has nothing
to do with it. Such a notion would mean that something other
than God causes suffering, and God would be less than all-powerful
if he could not prevent it when he really didnÌt want it to happen.
Neither chance, the laws of nature, nor anything else but God rules
this universe. ÏConsider the work of God; for who can make
straight what he has made crooked? In the day of prosperity
be joyful, but in the day of adversity consider: surely God has
appointed the one as well as the other, so that man can find out
nothing that will come after him.Ó (Eccl. 7:13-14)
2. All suffering God ordains for his children is for their good.
God knows just what we need to refine and sanctify us; thus,
God does not delight in inflicting pain, but does so only because
it is necessary for us. As one minister so well put it, ÏGod
does not waste pain on anyone.Ó Scripture teaches that God
does not afflict or grieve the children of men willingly,
that is, from his heart, as if he enjoys inflicting pain
(Lam. 3:33). Peter tells his readers to rejoice as they are
grieved by various trials, because these fires of trial will reveal
the genuineness of their faith, as gold is refined by fire, and
this refinement will lead to the praise, honor, and glory of God
(1 Pet. 1:6-9). James writes that the person who endures trials
is blessed and he should count it joy, because the testing of his
faith produces patience, and patience develops the Christian character
into maturity (James 1:2-4, 12). Paul writes in a similar
way, telling the believers in Rome that we should glory in
our tribulations, knowing that tribulation produces endurance or
patience, which in turn produces a proven character, and finally
hope that does not disappoint us because we understand that GodÌs
love has been poured out in our hearts by the Holy Spirit (Rom.
5:3-5). And remember that in all things God works for the
good of those who love him and who have been called according to
his purpose (Rom. 8:28).
3. Suffering is a sign of being true children of God.
Scripture teaches us that God disciplines his own sons for their
good, and that such discipline, although difficult to bear at the
time, results in partaking in GodÌs holiness (Heb. 12:3-11).
As strange as it may seem, our suffering as Christians becomes a
badge of our sonship and a means for God to sanctify us and transform
us into the image of Christ. For that reason, we need to thank
him. At the same time, no one would foolishly argue that this
discipline is not difficult and painful, and scripture agrees: ÏNow
no chastening (discipline, NIV) seems to be joyful for the present,
but painful; nevertheless, afterwards it yields the peaceable fruit
of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.Ó (Heb. 12:11)
4. We were called to be followers and imitators of Christ in
his suffering. The first letter of Peter to the Christians
in Asia Minor deals primarily with helping them understand and endure
their suffering. Peter makes the statement that "when
you do good and suffer, if you take it patiently, this is commendable
before God. For to this you were called, because Christ also
suffered for us, leaving us an example, that you should follow his
steps" (1 Pet. 2:20-21). We normally think of being called
to eternal salvation, or being called to holiness, but we often
fail to remember that we were also called to imitate the life of
Christ including his suffering. Paul writes that he "counts
everything but rubbish in order to gain Christ, to be found in him,
to have the righteousness which is not his but Christ," and
"that I may know him and the power of his resurrection, and
the fellowship of his sufferings, being conformed to his death"
(Phil. 3:7-11).
It really seems strange to people to talk about good that comes
out of suffering, and yet I have talked to so many people who look
back at their sufferings and see the hand of God in it all, how
that God broke them from all pride and self-sufficiency and taught
them their total dependence on him. They learned from him
what was really important, they learned strength and patience, they
learned of his grace and love, and, yes, a blessed fellowship opened
to them with Christ only through partnering with him in his suffering.
True theology that blesses us, comforts us, assures us, and motivates
us cannot really be assimilated into our souls just by teaching.
True, we must teach. But only the Holy Spirit can take the
lessons of truth and make them reality in our hearts and minds,
and, interestingly enough, he never does this apart from
suffering!
John baptized with water, but the Savior baptizes with the Holy
Spirit and with fire (Matt. 3:11). Our baptism is necessary
for our final salvation in both aspects: the baptism of the Holy
Spirit and the baptism of fire in our trials and suffering.
Paul wrote to the Philippians and told them that "to you it
has been granted on behalf of Christ, not only to believe in him,
but also to suffer for his sake." (Phil. 1:29) We know
that the wonderful gift of faith is necessary for our salvation,
but we must not forget that suffering is another necessary gift!
Can we be grateful for all his gracious, saving gifts?
May God bless you as you endure the trials God has appointed for
your life as he develops holiness and character in your soul and
teaches you his love. May you find strength to endure, and
may he soon grant you relief from your trials and the realization
and full experience of the great joy for which it was all intended.
Please contact us at Engedi Ministries if we may be of any service
to you in your Christian journey.
(This article is dedicated to my beloved friend and brother Lonnie
Taylor, and to other young people I have been blessed to know and
share truth with, who have had to endure much suffering during their
young lives, but who have found confirmation of their calling and
election and God's eternal love for them in the process.)
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